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I teach and practice Gestalt therapy, Career decision coaching, and Family Constellations work. As well as Australia, I teach workshops and training in China, Japan, Korea, the USA & Mexico. I am author of Understanding The Woman In Your Life, a book of advice for men about relationships with women. In my work as director of Lifeworks I provide therapy,  training and supervision. I am a Phd candidate, studying the interpersonal dynamics of power, and am currently director of an MA in Spiritual Psychology for Ryokan College, an accredited online institution based in LA.

2017年3月25日 星期六

案例 #205 - 掐着脖子的手

罗萨是个在康复期的瘾君子。我问她身体的那个部分和酒精上瘾相关。她说是她的喉咙。我问感觉是怎样的,她说象被什么绑着,让她窒息。

我让她用手指展示给我看。她照做了。

这在完形中是很重要的——聚焦在觉知上,我们说使觉知更敏锐,这对于个案和我都能更多的从细节上触碰到真实的感受。我建议了一个实验,我会缓慢的向罗萨的脖子移动我的手,不管何时她说停我就停下来。

完形的实验是安全(她在掌控,我随时根据她的指令停止)和冒险(窒息的体验)的集合体。这也叫所谓的"反转",从你对你自己做的,全部是在内部的能量中移开来。用这种方法,我能改变方向,让她从不同的方式去体验。这也会创造出一个关系上的尝试。

所以我就这么做了。当我的手离她的脖子三厘米的时候她喊停。我让她去感受、呼吸、留在当下。这非常重要,不然的话人们会脱离当下,这个觉知的实验九没有价值了——太多的冒险。

我把手抽回来,问她的感受,她说"有一根绳子断了"。

我注意到她的脖子上有两个印记,问她是怎么弄的。她说是童年时弄的,然后开始哭泣。我没有问更多——我们可以另选时间讨论这个故事。在目前来说更重要的是留在当下。

所以我又把我的手移得近了些,这次在还有两厘米的时候她喊停。再一次,我让她呼吸、感受、留在当下。

我退了回去。

现在我让她发出一个声音——她感觉很难做到。我叫她呼出一口气,能够的话随便让怎样的一种声音跟随而出。

然后我又向她靠近,这次她让我把手放在她的脖子上。

我让她发声。我能够感觉到她喉咙里的一个小小的震动。她在努力。她觉得她的喉咙很温暖,而且告诉我绳子不见了。

她说她很难留在当下,而且她感觉尴尬。

这意味着我们已经到达了她能袒露的边界。所以我让她把手放到我的脖子上,现在轮到我,允许她接管过能量。

她说她觉得更稳定和舒适,也与我更当下。

她退回去,这时在我们之间有非常强的连接,而且她感觉安全、温暖。

这对她来说是个非常重要的转化的体验。在安全的实验和关系中,她和让她上瘾的一些能量对峙了,正面迎上去,可以感觉到那是什么。经过这个实验我们之间的关系变得非常强而有力,给未来的治疗奠定了很好的基础。这是一种很高层次的信任,是一个成功的治疗最必要的因素。

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